Why Having Friends is So Important and How to Find Them

Don’t expect any one friend to meet all your needs. That’s why it’s good to have different friends. As you naturally meet people, you will find they each appeal to you on different levels. Let’s say that you share a hobby with one friend and you enjoy discussing that hobby or interest that no one else would understand. You have another friend at work that you discuss all things pertaining to work. They understand all the circumstances of the work place. You may have another friend that you enjoy meeting to play golf. The point is …… not all friends have to be your closest friend. Different friends fill different needs and no one person fulfills all needs.

Finding a close or best friend is a wonderful experience but one of the most difficult. A close friend that sticks closer than a brother or sister is much like a spouse. They understand you better than most people and you have a mutual respect and camaraderie. People will come and go from your life but always be on the look-out for close friends because they add so much value to your life. Finding a best friend should always be a high priority in your life. Unfortunately, you can not time the event of meeting and having a best friend but you can make yourself available and have plenty of outlets to meet people. The more accessible you are to different people, the more possibilities of meeting friends and particularly special friends who can become close.

Being active in community groups, volunteer work, health club, church, speaking groups such as Toastmaster and hobby clubs are a great way to meet people of similar interest.

Remember that friends give you a different perspective on life plus the ability to bounce different ideas that you may never thought of. No one size fits all and different friends fill different needs. Some will be close and others you’ll see once in awhile, but all friendships should be valuable.

When a friendship becomes lopsided and there's no pleasure in the company or when the negatives far out weigh the positives aspects of your friendship  then it’s time to evaluate the relationship and determine whether that friend is worthy of keeping or if you should move on and end the relationship.

Don't feel bad when you have to make this decision. Bad friends are like bad breath in that they are no fun to be around and can become down right repulsive if you don't take action to self evaluate and end the relationship.

 Also read  Friends and The Meaning of Life

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